Divorce is a time of drastic change for any family. Sometimes a divorce can bring out the worst in people, and they may show their true character during such a challenge. If you've discovered something that leads you to seek custody of your grandchildren while their parents are divorcing, know that you're not alone.
PBS reports that 2.7 million grandparents are raising their grandkids. Responsibilities of parenting your grandchildren deserve serious thought. The lives of you, your spouse, and your grandkids will be dramatically altered, but that can be an overall positive thing. Consider these things if you want custody of your grandkids.
Know the Realities
If you are going to seek custody of your grandchildren, you need to go into this battle knowing that it won't be easy. The odds aren't necessarily in your favor since courts tend to want children to stay with their parents whenever feasible.
Don't set yourself up for heartbreak and a succession of disappointments. Know that the courts aren't set up to ensure your success, even if you would provide a good home for your grandchildren. In most cases, courts don't give grandparents custody. Go into the process with realistic expectations and the best interests of your grandchildren at heart.
Gather Evidence
If you are seeking custody of your grandchildren because one or both of their parents is an unfit parent, you need to gather evidence of claims that you're making. Be sure that you state the truth and not just your suspicions.
If the situation is serious enough, work with law enforcement and an attorney to gather as much evidence as you can to support the claims you're making. If your grandchildren are being abused, contact law enforcement immediately to have them removed from the situation right away. If a parent being around a child is harmful to that child, the judge may deny that parent any sort of access to the child.
Discuss Consequences With a Lawyer
If you file for custody of your grandchildren, you may alienate both your own adult child and their soon-to-be ex-spouse. That can have long-term consequences on how often you may see your grandchildren in the future. Discuss all the potential negative consequence of seeking custody with an experienced family law attorney.
If you feel compelled to seek custody despite the possible consequences or even potential family alienation, you may still want to make a pros and cons list before you take any legal action. Then assess the list, weighing the risks against the rewards. Be very clear that you want to file for custody before you do so.
Talk to Your Grandchildren's Parents
You may be able to amicably resolve the issue without any alienation in the family. Sometimes parents who aren't up for the task of parenting realize their shortcomings in childcare. They may be supportive of you taking on full custody of your grandchildren. On the other hand, you may not be able to discuss details with your adult child if they are absent from your grandkids' lives.
According to the Legal Aid Society of Cleveland, Ohio law offers two choices that can give you temporary custody of your grandchildren. You may be able to get a grandparent power of attorney that would be signed by both you and a parent. That could grant you temporary custody. Alternately, you may be able to get a grandparent caretaker authorization affidavit if the parents cannot be found.
Finally, if you feel that obtaining custody of your grandkids is in their best interests, speak to a family law attorney as soon as possible. Mary E. Papcke, Attorney at Law, is an experienced lawyer who also has a degree in counseling, which can be helpful for sorting out the complexities involved with this kind of case. Reach out today for a free consultation to discuss your situation.